I have completed the externship and core skills training in emotionally focused couples therapy and I am a member of ICEEFT.  The EFT model is rooted in attachment science, the understanding that we are mammals first which means our natural tendency is to rely on each other.  When we are confronted with challenges in the attachment we can experience conflict, stone walling, desperation and disconnect.  I work by listening beneath the content of the conflict to try and help the couple understand what they are really trying to say to each other.  I pay attention to the attachment patterns in the couple and invite each partner to think about their past, significant relationships, and then we explore how those past relationships might be impacting you in your partnership today.